And you know what?
According to Wikipedia, ‘A helicopter parent is a parent who pays extremely close attention to a child’s or children’s experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions. Helicopter parents are so named because, like helicopters, they “hover overhead”, overseeing every aspect of their child’s life constantly.’
I’m a Helicopter Parent.
I hover. I stand “overhead.” I am whipping around him like a damn helicopter. I suffocate my child and have no regard for his personal space and I have zero interest in letting him freely roam about, letting him “experience,” (i.e. DESTROY) the world around him.
And you wanna know why?
Because I know that if I don’t stand over my child like a helicopter, he will run off, or stick his tongue in an electrical socket, or throw something at your TV, or break a precious heirloom. And ya know what? I don’t really feel like dealing with that.
Perhaps we can all cut helicopter parents some slack. Because you want to know something?
Helicopter parents are EXHAUSTED!
We are utterly exhausted from constantly hovering over our children and making sure they don’t do something they aren’t supposed to do but they aren’t capable of comprehending that the things they want to do aren’t socially acceptable. Do you think we would hover over our children unless we had a choice? Don’t you think we would love to sit down and know that they weren’t going to destroy the world and all who inhabit it if, God forbid, we sat down for one second?
Chances are if you see a Helicopter Parent, they have a very good reason for hovering over their children. Perhaps their child has autism and you just can’t see it. Or maybe their child has a developmental delay or behavioral issues and can’t catch on to social cues and they are terrified their child will whack someone else’s child at the playground.
Perhaps something terrible has recently happened to their child, or maybe they recently bolted into oncoming traffic for no apparent reason. Maybe that helicopter parent just can’t trust their child right now, and hovering gives them a peace of mind and calms their anxiety.
It’s not your child…
Last I checked, me being a Helicopter Parent doesn’t exactly involve you, nor does it affect you. And if you think I’m raising an overindulged, oversensitive child that won’t take responsibility for his actions?
Well, you’ve got another thing coming…
So, the next time you see a Helicopter Parent out in public, maybe instead of staring… or judging… or giving them your unsolicited advice on how to parent… or asking why that parent doesn’t just “relax” and “let their child be,” maybe just hold up a symbol of solidarity or give them a reassuring smile.
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